Posts Tagged ‘women

25
Jan
19

Women’s Clothing Needs to Grow Up, Again

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Call me old-fashioned–though “my kind” doesn’t exactly like the word “old” to be attached to anything personal–but I have an issue with some articles of modern women’s clothing; namely skirts and some of the dresses you may see on the red carpets of countless, excessive and potentially quite pointless award shows. [But, I’ll save my “beef” with award shows for another post.]

I flip through the TV channels and come across some old…really old…I’m talking black-and-white…show that features women of the “Wild West” in long dresses and skirts that dance around their ankles; and I feel generally good about these women. There’s a reassuring warmth and appealing feminine energy about them. They’re fragile but enduring. And, some can be quite spirited, standing up for themselves when confronted by hostile men. ‘Nothing wrong with that. But, who would wear such outfits these days? And, I don’t mean just for costume parties, photo booths or role-playing games.

But, this isn’t new news. So, why am I bothering to say anything? I’m the Writingbolt. And, I write these pieces when the mood strikes, like lightning. [Insert lightning-infused header image and audio/visual effects.]

In short, too many current skirts (and some dresses) are far too revealing and short; so short that they’ve lost my interest. In fact, I think they’re rather annoying, impractical and hazardous.

[MMMMaybe I have reached “that age.” Even I sound old to myself. Yet, even when I was younger, I never saw a model I liked in such tasteless outfits. And, if she posed in some skimpy lingerie in some lewd or forced way, I didn’t drool. The Rachel H., Rebecca R. and Kathy I. I liked had more class, even when wearing lingerie.]

I don’t know when this trend started. But, I am inclined to guess the mid-1990s, when a certain anime character (I quickly grew to favor) featured an atypical short skirt as part of her civilian uniform instead of a Barbie-doll paper-cut-out dress with some weird design on the front, as seen in other incarnations and on Nancy O’Dell on a regular ET basis. It’s the only thing about the character’s appearance…other than maybe the odd way her nose and lips are drawn, as if she has no lips…that bugs me. If the short skirt was a pair of shorts, I wouldn’t mind.

But, it’s not just in anime, anymore. I see it everywhere, including countless outfits with those poor excuses for thin belts hugging the boobs and leaving some rippling tree skirt to cover the rest. [Are we seriously passing “baby doll” lingerie and shower curtains as everyday wear?] It’s being shoved down our throats. Just as women are striving for more respect and equality, their clothing is not respecting THEM. [And, several (not all) starlets of “Hollywood” and the music industry are possibly the worst…and not just the ones under the age of 30.]

Or, how about the dress that has a horribly cut neckline that plunges beyond the sexy V-shape plunge to the navel like some weird vest? That’s not a peplos (a really old Greek style of dress, for anyone who has no clue). That’s a pep-loss! Do you honestly feel content wearing such clothes…or did someone slap them on you to make a buck and turn you into their NASCAR billboard? Isn’t it about time women, even the “stars,” started making their own clothing choices and giving the photo barrages a bit more variety, instead of looking like deer caught in the headlights with their pants down? [I’m just so tempted to go on a rant about award shows. Grrr!]

On most women–who do NOT have enough breast to call them chickens–this is not the least bit attractive or flattering. It’s like an invitation to assault them. OPEN HERE TO GET LUCKY; BUT GOOD LUCK ENJOYING THE SCRAPPY CONTENTS. Though, I am sure most women who wear these dresses are crying, “Please, think of me and tell me I’m still popular and pretty. I don’t want to be left out of the party…even though other women are dressed differently and, thus, this shouldn’t be a concern. So, WHY, just for one night, am I wearing enough money to fill a Macy’s department store when I’d rather be lounging in something else…just to add one more rather pointless trophy to a shelf few get to see?”

[Or, do those awards work like stats in professional sports? Do you get a better shot at the next “gig” by flashing some gold or finely cut glass? Will your talent be ignored in favor of someone younger who grabbed two awards when you only got nominated? How sad is that?]

If men started wearing vests with nothing underneath, just boxer shorts or even flannel pajamas as day clothes and/or business attire, would they be as respected? Would they have as much sway over women? Maybe those who have something to show off. But, what about all the men with “body image” inhibitions (including yours truly)? It would be a social crisis of e-pectoral proportions! [See what I did there?]

Now, ladies, if you are lucky enough to be wise to the “legging” trend, you might get away with pairing a set with one of these short-short skirts/dresses…you might. The right color and fabric combo could be distracting, comfortable and sufficiently protective. But, if there is ANY chance of exposing undergarments? No go. Return to retailer.

At a time when more and more girls and women are coming up in cases of mistreatment (which is putting it lightly), do we really want to dress them in clothes that not just attract corrupt predators but do nothing to make them feel protected and comfortable?

[Ths may just be my opinion…and I am well aware of how futile such rants may be in an ever-expanding sea of opinionated, anti-social hermits being sucked into some cyber-universe while robots replace them…but if you are comfortable going about your day in a “babydoll” outfit, do you like sexual harrassment for breakfast, lunch and dinner? Are you so starved for compliments that you think such a skimpy outfit will do no harm? If I had a part of my body I wanted to show off, even I know accentuating it would be like playing with fire. Can you imagine a man boasting his “manhood” by wearing something that showcased it as casual or even business attire?]

If you disagree, tell me exactly how such daring garments are respectful to women? Flattering? Protective? Comforting?

So many are trying desperately to be trendsetters or getting caught up in what they think is a trend that there’s this ugly slaughter-house effect stinking up media sources without giving any viewer something realistic to emulate. [Do NOT give me that crap about how you can get close to the red-carpet looks with similar pieces at lower prices. Just shut up.]

[And, I am sure plenty would agree the “photo barrages” need to stop, too. It’s really getting old and not helping anyone other than those who make a buck off the photos.]

Ladies? You deserve better.

[And, no, the everything-elastic trend I am noticing on the rise with those who do not get much camera attention, is not necessarily the solution. It’s like me excusing sweats as casual wear, and I am more than eager to come up with better men’s fashion options…just low on ideas for how to adequately design and make them.]

Are you just going to sit there and accept this? I sure hope not.

Fashion designers and their distributors, you don’t have to go petticoat. But, please, correct this mistake. Bring back longer skirts, knee socks and dresses that only reveal a small portion of the upper body above the bustline. And, put belts where they belong…around the waist (not the “underwire”). Women don’t need to look like choked napkins. I will thank you by adequately servicing those who follow these guidelines. Those who stick with the too-short and choking-belt outfits will eventually lose my respect, especially if they think they can hold any authority over me.

In short, like getting more flies with honey versus vinegar, women, you’ll get more from me by wearing less-revealing attire. I’m giving you a personal pass to protect your goods by draping them in more fabrics and styles than are currently being “pressed” as “amazing.” Comfort and protection don’t have to be lazy, loose and/or unflattering.

And, though it has little to nothing to do with the main topic of this post, my fellow heterosexual (not gay, not LGBT-and-the-rest-of-alphabet, not a-sexual or any other variant who thinks shades of turquoise, seafoam green, pink and orange are the only colors men should be wearing with hideous striped designs) men, I am pounding my brain to come up with some clothing options for us. But, even if I had some ideas, I have no idea how to put them into production. I’d appreciate some help.

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08
Dec
16

My Response to “Fantasizing in New York” (Dear Abby)

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A married woman claims to be bisexual while in her second marriage to a man.  [Her first marriage was to a woman.  I presume she married both rather quickly and recently unless she married the woman outside of the US or “on the down low.”]  She wants to pretend her husband is another woman during sex.  He is decidedly heterosexual and monogamous with next to no tolerance for her alternative notions.  I have a fairly strong response to this which contradicts the professional advice she was given.

08
Nov
16

At the Relationship Crossroads

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I’ve come to the realization, more than once, that when I hesitate to move forward with a woman that sparks my interest, someone is lurking in my blind spot just waiting to beat me to the punch, spoil all my effort and claim the most costly of prizes (or cheapest, depending upon your perspective) as if it was always within reach. The long drive may be the promise of the sweetest things, but that doesn’t stop the fast and furious. And, at the same time, haste makes waste. Too many race to get the cup without checking under the hood and pacing themselves. This often results in devastating crashes and other crimes of the heart.

You may have seen it in a movie or one of the lewd cartoons polluting the airwaves these days. The “good” guy goes through the trouble of getting to know the woman, picking out just the right flowers and gift for a special day. Then, along comes Captain Jack Killjoy with one slick line and that irrestistable musk that drops Beauty faster than a Bela Legosi can raise an eyebrow, even though she tells you she’s not the type to fall for that crap. The “good” guy gets wind of what just happened, watches his flowers wilt and walks away with nothing (maybe a lesson learned if you’re that glass-half-full type). Some may crack their routine and join the rat race. The rest patch their tires and hit the same, old road one more time, looking for Lovers’ Lane, the best bed and breakfast in a serene neighborhood.

If you ever find yourself in a position where the one you want to spend your life with is heading far away for some time, don’t make any promises. It may be an epic romantic fantasy to receive love letters and reunite years later, but you could just as likely be the focus of a ghost story, waiting on some cliff for your love to return until you die of misery.

Maybe some day, I’ll be remembered as the genuine “road warrior.” Like the movies, that may be all that is remembered about me. All the sweat and tears I went through, avoiding car-wrecks and striving to stay in the right lane, may just be dust in the wind, along with all the rules and road signs the system tries to stick in our faces.

In the end, you go with your gut when you reach that same intersection that stopped me in my tracks. So, let me ask you. If you’re pursuing or riding with a love interest, are you coasting along Learnmore Road or racing down Efher Avenue?

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03
Feb
16

Sweater Season; Let’s Get It Awn!

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I love winter for few reasons.  One, women wear some of the finest sweaters at this time.  In simple celebration of that and the approach of Valentine’s Day, I whipped these up.  [I have no idea why these have to be thumbnails or why my extra wide images cannot be made to fit the protocols here…which is why I am seeing strange endless rows of question marks on the post?]

06
Oct
15

Women Are the Shijo Koji of My Art

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Why do I think of women so much?  And, why are thoughts of complete nudity and sex so offensive or discomforting?  I’ve discussed theories before.

But, after watching a little Japanese cooking segment, this came to me.  Perhaps, women are like “shijo koji,” Japanese rice exposed to koi enzymes for various cooking processes/dishes.  They are a versatile source of inspiration that add flavor to the pot of life…and, particularly, to many if not most of my artistic creations.  [I suppose, if I was a woman, I might say the same of men.  Personally, I don’t look at men the same way.  :)]

It seems women are a form of meditation for me.  I just have to insert the word into the bowl of water in my mind with an adjective, and all sorts of shapes, colors and patterns can appear.  I would like to focus on other subjects for my art; but women are infinitely diverse and intriguing.  Maybe if sparrows wore sweaters and boots, I’d give them a closer look.  😛

What of the sexual aspects?  Well, I AM a rather solitary guy (but not an asexual geek).  I think about women and sex often enough.  But, too much sex, like an excess of bacteria or salt with the shijo koji, spoils the “flavor” of all a woman has to offer.  She is more than a sex object.  In fact, I’d rather not think of the sex.  [But, it seems to radiate from other sources (like television and movies) and infect my thoughts.]  I also do not care for nude artwork.  That is something artists should do privately with those they love…and keep private…if they create nudes, at all.  And, if all you think about is sex, that gets boring…and it sounds risky of any number of infections and other ailments.  So, men, handle your shijo koji, women, in a variety of subtle ways.  Dress her up nice and speak sweetly when possible (not just to lure her out of her clothes).  But, feel free to express all emotions to diversify the spice of life she provides.

Just a random thought.  You can go on with your day, now.  And, try not to lose your appetites.  😛  We all have someone or something we desire to put on a pedestal or hang on our wall…or in our hearts.  🙂

Happy creating.  And, may divine inspiration guide you wisely.

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07
Apr
15

Chubby Women Can Be Angels, Too

I seem to be relying upon televised gossip to motivate my blog posts, lately.  Today’s motivating piece of media involves a movement by bigger women (those without the standard “super model” figure) to show off their undergarments and claim they are NO ANGELS.  Why angels?  I wonder myself.  Well, it seems Victoria Secret, the infamous lingerie company, has been promoting a line of lingerie under the Angel banner.  And, every woman who feels inferior to those models wearing the Angel line and who has a bone to pick is speaking out visually.  Surely, you can do a search for NO ANGEL and find your fill of these chubby rebels against the super model machine.

While I think it’s noble of these not-so-trim women to defend beauty in other shapes…and while I agree with those who say beauty is in the eye of the beholder…I also think:

1) Victoria Secret should be the ones saying they’re no angels, because they are apparently making these other women turn to the dark side for lacking a model figure.  Victoria Secret is always trying to seduce viewers.  That sounds more like a tempting entity than an angel.  Just because they wear wings doesn’t mean they are true angels.  Not by a long shot.

2) The chubby women who feel excluded from the angel label should consider themselves “chubby cherubs,” instead.  I know plenty of chubby angels.  I don’t want chubby beauties feeling like the only option left for them comes with horns and a pitchfork.

A choice of words can turn you toward the light or the dark side.  So, stand tall and proud in your underwear, all of you who wear plus-sized lingerie and hide your bulges.  You too can be angels and show off your own wings.  The sticks doing tricks are just posers.

06
Jan
15

Profound Thoughts: Am I Pimping My Fantasies?

And now, it’s time for another addition of Profound Thoughts with Writingbolt…

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I find myself writing similar stories…
About guys like me at different ages…
And the girls/women with whom I dream about sharing intimate moments…

But, as I ponder the possibility of being published…
I wonder…
If I put my fantasies up for sale…
Am I a pimp making money off my “ladies?”

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